Cover Design: Sandy Popovich Pollack


It’s crazy how a moment in time can change the course of an entire family.

Them Before Me is the story of a child innocently born into a family living in emotional chaos. Nancy’s parents lived in the shadow of historical trauma from immigration, family deaths, abuse, and divorce, and were unable to deliver the parental structure and dependable love this child so desperately needed. Events beyond all their control, together they were led down a path of intergenerational loss, grief, and pain.

From a very young age, bewildered and concerned, and with the monumental challenge to live a normal childhood, Nancy somehow still managed to see her world as a glass-half-full. As her heart expanded, she found her way to a place of genuine compassion and forgiveness, which led her to live out of earnest gratitude and unfeigned love. She managed to turn hardship into opportunity, until she found herself living a self-fulfilled life of meaning and joy, one that she lives today.

As Nancy put her personal puzzle pieces together, although often painful and heartbreaking, but totally worth the journey, telling her story of Them Before Me was a gift. Not just for herself, but for those who need the permission and tools to find their own paths of healing their hearts and souls.

All proceeds from the sales of this book will be donated to the Beverly Shirlee Zimmerman Bock Fund for Girls and Women At Risk, an endowed fund at Jewish Family and Children’s Services of San Francisco, The Peninsula, Marin and Sonoma Counties, and Nā Keiki O Emalia, a non-profit organization on Maui providing support to grieving children, teens and their families.

In addition to purchasing books, you can also donate directly to these two worthy causes by clicking on the links below.

Thank you in advance for your generosity to support those who are at risk, and struggling from loss and grief.